How To Control Your Negative Emotions For A More Positive Life

How To Control Your Negative Emotions For A More Positive Life

Do you become angry when you get your feelings hurt? Do you become aggressive or anxious when you’re unhappy or feeling frustrated? Criticism is another common trigger for hurt feelings. However, negative emotions aren´t something that happen to you. They are something you do to yourself.

Hurt, anger, frustration, despair – none of these are useful emotions. They drain your energy and damage your health. They can ruin your relationships and hold you back from new opportunities.

While it’s challenging to control external circumstances, you can learn to control your emotional reactions and attitudes. Think about how powerful you’d feel if you had this kind of control.

How To Eliminate Negative Emotions

Do you ever find yourself becoming angry or resentful over irrelevant issues? Life could be much more joyful by simply eliminating negative emotions. Make today be the day you start moving towards peace and positivity in your life.

Here´s how:

Count To 10

Your mom probably told you to stop and count to ten at some point in your life, and moms give great advice. This strategy is distracting and gives you the mental space to come up with a better alternative.

Avoid Taking Things Too Seriously

Remind yourself that life is short. Does the issue that’s causing your anger matter in the grand scheme of things?

Shift Your Focus

Spend time each day reminding yourself how great life would be without anger. Create a positive image in your mind and keep moving toward that more peaceful existence.

Take A Drink Of Water

Again, this will distract you from your anger and give you a few minutes to regain your composure. To some extent, many of us are chronically dehydrated. A little water will likely make you feel better.

Focus On Your Breathing

By focusing on your breathing, you’re taking the focus off whatever is making you feel hurt or angry. A few slow, deep breaths can have a calming effect.

Realize That Everyone Has An Option

It’s pointless to get upset just because someone doesn’t agree with you. How would you feel if others became furious, withdrawn or hurt every time you didn’t agree with them?

Understand That You Always Have a Choice

So, CHOOSE to react calmly, regardless of the situation. Having good intentions can make all the difference.

Think Of Something Funny

It’s much more difficult to be angry or hurt while you’re laughing. There’s something funny in nearly any situation. If you’re unable to find something at that moment, remember another time that was humorous.

Focus On Being Patient

Try slowing everything down and calming yourself whenever emotions run high. Your emotions are much less likely to get out of control if you react more peacefully. Those who are patient have more freedom and options.

Think Positive Thoughts

Your feelings are based on your interpretation of the situation. Avoid assuming the worst. Positive thoughts result in positive emotions and a happier life.

Negative emotions – particularly anger – are a sign of poor self-control and rarely ever lead to a positive outcome. When you allow yourself to become the victim of negative feelings, you’re far more likely to make unfavorable choices. Poor decisions make life and relationships more challenging than they need to be.

Work on controlling your emotions daily. Live in the moment. Embrace the positive. Consider getting professional help if negativity seems to play an overwhelming role in your life. With consistent practice, you can learn to inject positivity into your life each and every day.

About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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