Why It´s Important To Learn To Let Go

I remember reading an article a few years ago on the power of learning to let go. I don´t remember who wrote it but the underlying idea in that article stuck with me and has gradually impacted every aspect of my life to this day.

Here´s what I learned…

All of our problems stem from an inability to let go.

It sounds almost too simple to be true. And, yet…

If you see a bird, flying overhead, what do you think it´s thinking about?

Is it wondering why it can´t be the early bird that gets the worm? Perhaps it´s worrying that the color of its feathers is less vibrant than that of the other birds… or is it worrying about its nest-building goals for this year?

Of course not.

On the other hand, thanks to our highly developed brains, we humans have a lot more going on inside our heads than little feathered friends do. We are creative problem-solvers with a tendency to overthink things, fall prey to anxiety and self-doubt, and generally get in our own way when comes to getting things done.

Not only that. We worry about things that happen to us, things that might happen to us and we often dwell on memories of things that happened in the past.

I guess, having a bigger brain might not be as wonderful as it´s cracked up to be. What do you think?

Over the past few years, I´ve put a lot of energy into learning to let go. And during that time, I´ve seen some really amazing results!

I procrastinate a lot less. I´ve lowered my stress levels. My relationships with both family and friends have improved. I´ve become much better at living in the moment and making positive changes in my life has become a whole lot easier.

The Advantages Of Learning To Let Go

The advantages of learning to let go are tremendous…

unfortunately, the resistance most of us feel toward learning to let go is tremendous as well.The importance of Learning to Let Go

Here´s what I mean…

Let´s take stress, for example.

Stress comes from expectations. We want something to go a particular way – then it doesn´t.

If you can learn to let go of your expectations; if you could learn to accept and appreciate things the way they are in the moment, much of the stress you feel would be a thing of the past.

What About Procrastination?

Procrastination comes from very low levels of motivation combined with the fear of failure, confusion, discomfort and a sense of overwhelm.

Learning to let go of constantly wanting things to be comfortable, successful and easy-to-do, is important here. Instead, welcome the variety of experiences available to you and just get started!

Habits are next in line. Most of us have such a hard time making positive changes in our lives. Instead of simply taking small steps that add up to massive change, we keep putting them off; turning from distraction to distraction, all day long.

This one was probably one of the hardest for me to let go…

Allowing myself to feel frustrated or irritated by what others say and do.

It´s so easy to feel irritated when people don´t behave the way we want them to. Instead of realizing that their behavior has more to do with them than with us, we get angry, feel frustrated and let it cloud our happiness.

If you really want to improve your relationships, learn to let go of wanting others to be a certain way. Show them love and acceptance and you´ll almost certainly receive the same in return…I know I have.

Both death and loss can bring unbelievable pain and suffering. Losing a loved one, being faced with a serious illness or suddenly losing your job can turn your world upside down in more ways than one.

That´s when learning to let go could be one of the most valuable lessons you ever learn.

The Importance of Learning To Let Go

What About Living In The Present?

How good are you at enjoying each moment as it comes?

So many people spend their time clinging to the past or chasing after the future that they miss out on the only live they´ll ever have; the life that´s happening right here and now.

Learn to let go of your obsession with the past or the future and focus on experiencing the present for all it´s worth!

And then there´s fear.

When you´re struggling to lose weight, start a new business or finally write that book, it´s fear that holds you back; fear of wanting things to be a certain way and not knowing whether you can manage it or not.

I´ll go into this more in future blog posts but suffice it to say, if you can learn to let go of your expectations about how things should be, you can loosen fear´s grip on you as well.

The 5 Minute Solution

I hope you can see, from all I´ve shared with you here, just how valuable learning to let go can be when it comes to dealing with the many problems life throws our way.

I´m not saying it´s easy. But it can be learned.

In fact, it can be learned in as little as 5 minutes each day.

And if you´re willing to put in the time; if you´re willing to do the work, those 5 minutes can lead to some amazing results!
If you´d like to learn how to develop and practice the “skill of letting go”, check out the articles below:

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About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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Carol says

Thanks for this post. I really enjoyed it. Letting go sounds easy, but it isn’t! I too have perfectionist tendencies that hold me back in so many ways. I am looking forward to reading more of your posts. Thanks again.

    Jan Marie says

    Hi Carol,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts on my post. You´re right – the idea of letting go sounds deceptively easy, and yet, only when you make the decision to do it, do you realize how much practice it really takes. Learning to let go is definitely an on-going process!

    Warm regards,
    Jan Marie 😉

Barbara says

I have put some thought into this … I fear always of not being perfect ..that I could not stand on my own… I was raised that if you could do it so can I … My family always compaired me to someone… that if I did not reach their expectation that I was no good..I mean I know that a friendly compettion makes you work hard but if you do not reach it don’t put them down… I know I have handicaps but I am still a person with feelings..it is hard for me to forgive I need to learn how to.. for me Right?????

    Jan Marie says

    Thank you for sharing, Barbara – yes, we need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy. Forgiveness can change your life. It doesn´t mean you erase the past or forget what happened. It doesn´t even mean the other person will change because you don´t have any control over that to begin with. All it really means is that you are letting go of anger and pain so you can move on to a better place.

    It´s not easy but I know you can learn to do it.
    Sending you positive energy and strength,
    Jan Marie 😉

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