3 Simple Keys To Having More Love To Give

If you´re like me, your loved ones and their sense of well-being are super important to you. You spend your days doing what you can to make sure they´re happy and well taken care of. That´s a big part of who you are and what you do, and you love doing it! But when do you find to really take care of yourself?

I mean, sometimes that commitment to others can cause us to pay less attention to our own needs, right?

Let me ask you this: how often in recent weeks and months have you bypassed taking care of your own needs and wants in order to do something for someone else instead? 

As admirable as wanting to take care of your family and friends may be, it´s just as important to make time to take care of yourself.

It´s a simple fact – whether we want to admit it or not – the more we take care of ourselves, the more love we have to share.

So, how exactly do you go about balancing self-care with your desire to care for others?

Put these 3 keys to work in your life.  They´ve been invaluable in helping me have more energy and create a greater balance in my life.

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Creative Quiet Time

If you think inside the box, quiet time means time alone without distractions or responsibilities. If you´re willing to think outside the box, though, you can paint a completely different picture…

  • Instead of foregoing your spa day for babysitting duties, why not take your little one with you? Get mom and daughter pedicures or 2 for 1 back massages. That way, you’re taking care of your loved one and getting well-deserved pampering for yourself, in the process!
  • Suggest that you and your spouse do movie night at home instead of at the cinema, that way you’ll get the best of both worlds…your favorite movie with some hugs and cuddles thrown in!
  • Try scheduling your quiet time when everyone else is asleep or otherwise occupied. You’ll be tempted to get some chores done, but resist the temptation! What’s not done today can be done tomorrow.

Restorative Rest                                  

By far, the best way to be of use to your loved ones is to be fresh and rested. When we neglect our rest, we tend to be cranky and impatient.

  • Being there physically may not be enough for some people in your life. They can tell when you’re doing it out of routine. That’s definitely not the impression you want to give!
  • Avoid feeling guilty about taking a break. There’s no reason to worry while you’re absent. The world can manage to stay intact for a short time while you’re gone.
  • Do you know that you can get some of that rest while having quiet time with your family? Cuddling on the couch with your daughter while she watches cartoons is the perfect scenario!

Speak Up – Your Needs Are Important, Too

The only way your family can understand your position is if you share it with them. Give them a chance to hear from you so your selflessness can be reciprocated.

  • Explain to your family members that you like to feel appreciated. They’ll realize that although you enjoy doing things for them, you’d still like to get some recognition.
  • Once they’re aware of your needs, you no longer have to worry about satisfying them on your own. With that scenario you can comfortably focus on their needs while they focus on yours.

I know how easy it can be to feel guilty about taking time for yourself – especially when you know someone close to you needs your help. But stop and think about this:

What would happen if you weren´t able to be there at all?

Not taking enough care of yourself endangers your health, your well-being and your ability to be there for those you care about most. 

If they’re truly your loved ones, they’ll understand that you have needs, too.

Keep in mind that communication is a two way street. It makes a world of difference when you learn to balance your own needs with everyone else´s. The more you love and take care of yourself, the more love you´ll have to give.

After all, isn´t that what you want most of all? 

About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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