5 Ways We Unconsciously Sabotage Our Success

If you’re not living the life of your dreams, I want to let you in on a little secret…

You have attachments that are getting in your way.

Every negative emotion you feel is the result of one or more attachments. And letting go of your attachments is the ONE way you can be sure of freeing yourself so you can enjoy AMAZING success in all you do.

So what exactly are attachments, how are you using them to sabotage yourself and what can you do about them? 

Here are 5 of the most common ways we often sabotage our efforts at following our dreams and living our vision. Which one (or two?!) have been holding you back, do you think? 

Attachment #1

The need to be comfortable is the greatest obstacle to success.

It’s human nature to seek out comfort. There are few, if any, greater drives than the desire to be comfortable. But success lies on the other side of comfort. Comfort comes from the familiar, but the familiar doesn’t bring change. 

  • Embrace discomfort. Understand that your uncomfortable feelings mean you’re doing something new. New actions bring new results. Those new results might be exactly what you’re looking for.


Attachment #2

The need to be right is a close second.

You’re wrong about many things. However, if you feel the need to be correct, there’s no room for the truth. Instead of wanting to prove you’re right, seek the truth. Spend your time building a more accurate map of your world rather than trying to force your current map on reality.

Attachment #3

Attachment to your identity is another obstacle.

Do you see yourself as an ineloquent person? If so, you’ll never become a great orator. Do you believe you’re naturally a heavy person? A lean, healthy body will always be out of reach. 

  • It’s very challenging to create a reality that clashes with your identity. Why are you attached to your opinion of yourself? Let it go and see how great you can become. You have nothing to lose.

Attachment #4

Are you attached to your habits?

Your life is the ultimate expression of your habits. Our lives get a little better or a little worse each day. Over several years, your habits dictate the quality of your life. If you can’t give up your current habits, you’re stuck. 

  • Many success experts believe that the development of new, effective habits is the cornerstone of success. Let go of your old habits and make room for the new.
  • It might be necessary to develop habits like learning each day, networking, exercising, or reviewing your goals regularly to reach a new level of success.
  • Habits are another way we comfort ourselves. It’s uncomfortable to break old habits and to create new habits.

Attachment #5

Attachment to places and people can also limit your success.

Many of the best opportunities can be in other locations. Are you attached to your hometown, state, or even country? The world is a big place. The best opportunity for you might not be within 25 miles of your front door.

  • We often become attached to places because of the people there. It’s not easy to leave friends and family to attain success.
  • The people in our lives are also habits. Think of the most successful people you know. Describe the people they spend time with on a regular basis. Compare that to the people in your social circle. Can you see a difference? Moving ahead often means letting go of certain people.

Attachment is limiting. If success isn’t coming quickly enough, your attachments are part of the challenge. Examine your tendencies and determine which are impeding your progress. Be willing to change and accept another viewpoint. Many attachments are pleasurable in the short-term, but painful in the long-term. Release your attachments and enjoy greater success.

About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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