3 Steps to Silencing Your Inner Critic

Do you have a negative little voice in the back of your head always beating you up, dragging you down and pushing you around? Does it keep up a running commentary of all the things you do wrong? Does it make you feel frustrated and worthless?

Then it´s time to make it STOP!

You shouldn´t let anything or anybody beat you up and drag you down – and that goes for that voice inside as well.

If you really want to be happier, healthier and have a better quality of life, you´ve got to put a muzzle on your inner critic and do what´s necessary to take away its power over you, once and for all.

Believe me. That little voice has no mercy. If you let it, it´ll join forces with fear and destroy your life!

Together, your inner critic and fear have all the power they need to make you look foolish, feel miserable and believe you´ll never get the things you want most out of life. They´ll lie to you from dawn `till dusk, convincing you you´re not enough and that you´ll never be enough.

As negativity and despair cloud your thinking, you´ll do what so many others do – you´ll look for someone or something else to blame.

You´ll accuse, complain and criticize. You´ll expect to fail. And you will.

Your inner critic will control your life and you´ll find yourself trapped into a way of thinking, speaking and doing things that carries you further away from your goals instead of towards them.

But it doesn´t have to be that way.

I believe – and have experienced for myself – that shifting your attitude and beliefs can have a HUGE positive impact on everything you think, say and do.

Silencing Your Inner Critic

Shift your beliefs and you change your world.

Not only that, you breathe positivity and inspiration into the world around you. And what you give, you get back…

So, let´s take a look at what you need to do:

Step 1: Look Closely At What You Truly Believe

Tell me, what is it you believe?

If you´re not sure, it´s time to stop and think about it for a bit…

After all, everything we do is based on how we feel and how we feel is based on what we believe.

If you´re unhappy with how things are going in your life, the thing you need to do is get clear on the beliefs that are holding you back – you know, the ones your inner critic keeps tossing at you day and night:

  • It’s just not possible.
  • I´ll never manage that.
  • No one will ever love me.
  • It´s never going to happen for me.
  • I´m completely out of control when I eat.

When we look at them with our “logical” brain, statements like these sound ridiculous and irrational…and yet, as crazy as it seems, when that little voice inside our head says them, we think they´re true.

So, what are your beliefs? Take a minute and write them down.

Step 2: Re-evaluate & Replace Your Beliefs

Now that you´ve begun to recognize some of your limiting beliefs, the next step is learning to replace them with new, positive and empowering beliefs.

And as simple as that sounds it´s not quite as easy to do…which is why so many people never actually take this next step.

Here´s a little exercise to help get you going:

  • Take a piece of paper and fold it down the middle, length-wise.
  • On the left-hand side, list out your negative beliefs
  • On the right-hand side of the paper, transform those limiting beliefs into positive statements like:

Limiting vs Empowering Beliefs

Okay, now it´s your turn…

what you focus on changes everything

Step 3: Focus & Repeat

The final step in this 3-step process is to repeat your new, empowering beliefs each and every day.

And, while you´re at it; make a point of speaking kindly to both yourself and those around you. Smile and compliment others. When someone pays you a compliment, don´t argue. Simply say thank you.

You deserve a break from the cycle of negativity your inner critic has been subjecting you to! Use the exercise in step 2 to shift that negative chatter to the positive and get in the habit of saying nice things about yourself to yourself. The more often you do it, the easier it will become.

We often don´t realize how much control our thoughts and words have over our actions. And our thoughts and actions stem from our feelings which stem from our beliefs.

If you want to change the results you´re getting, you need to change the limiting beliefs that are holding you back.

It´s the only way…

Following these steps can help you re-train your inner critic to become your most empowering cheerleader! Commit to doing them for 3 days and you´ll begin to notice an amazing positive shift in how you feel and what you do!

Just don´t let down your guard too quickly. Your inner critic is stubborn and strong and it doesn´t give up easily. Even as you practice the 3 steps above, it will claw and fight to win even the smallest battle.

When that happens, consistency is your best weapon!

Work your way through all 3 steps, then rinse and repeat as often as needed. With time and practice, you´ll become stronger, that nasty little voice will become weaker and you will be back in control of your thoughts –and your life – again!

About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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guy says

so powerful. thank you so much 🙂

    Jan Marie says

    You are so very welcome, Guy. Thanks for visiting my blog 😉

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