By Choice Or Chance: Which Way Are You Living Your Life?

It is so easy to get caught up in the business of life; relying on luck and allowing random events to determine the path we follow – this is what I call living by chance.

What we really want to be doing is making conscious decisions and choosing the direction we take. That´s what I call living by choice.

These are two dramatically different ways to live.

Living by chance leads to anxiety, uncertainty, and dissatisfaction. Whereas living by choice is not only much more effective, it´s also far more satisfying and fulfilling.

Living By Choice vs Living By Chance

Entropy Is Your Enemy

Entropy is the idea that all systems have a gradual decline into disorder. A sandcastle tends to fall apart over time. You won’t see a sandcastle spontaneously rise from the beach. A clean room becomes more cluttered over time. It won’t become less cluttered on its own.

  • If you’re living by choice, you’re adding energy into your life and moving in a predetermined direction. There’s regular improvement. This is all that’s needed to overcome the effects of entropy. You can outrun the pull into disorder.

  • If you’re living by chance, you lack direction. Your life is always becoming more disordered. It’s only when your discomfort is great enough that you’ll get busy and make it tolerable again. But it will never be great. You deserve more than this type of life will ever provide.
Living By Choice

Brilliant Things Rarely Happen By Accident

The odds of anyone becoming a brain surgeon, movie star, astronaut, or president or living an amazing life are slim without intention. All of these things require an intention.

  • If you’re living by choice, you know what you want and you’re making it happen. You have a pretty good idea of what your life will look like in the future. Anything is possible with enough time and effort.

  • If you’re living by chance, you likely have a job you don’t want and you’re living a life you don’t enjoy. You spend a lot of your effort putting out fires just to keep your life the same. Life becomes one minor catastrophe after another.

A Brilliant Life Takes Some Thought

It’s hard to get what you want if you don’t know what it is. If don’t know what you want, you’re stuck with whatever you get.

  • If you’re living by choice, you’re able to set goals. Attaining them creates the life you desire, step by step.

  • If you’re living by chance, you don’t set goals. Failing to choose the direction of your life means not being clear on your desires. Without a target, you’re just drifting through life.

Consistency Is Important To Living A Balanced Life

It’s not just important to be consistent, but to be consistent effectively. Watching five hours of TV each night is consistent, but not effective.

  • If you’re living by choice, you are in the position to take effective, consistent action. A great career, body, social life, or anything else requires consistency, day after day. Making choices about your life provides the opportunity to be consistent in an effective manner.

  • If you’re living by chance, you’re consistently inconsistent. Your life is too random to make progress in any meaningful way. The only consistent part of your life is passivity.

Choose the life you want to live. Any other alternative leads to unsatisfactory results. Make decisions and choose to stick with them. You can create a much more satisfying and enjoyable life with choice than you’ll ever achieve through chance alone.

Live your life by design instead of opting to live it by default.

Be bold: let your Brilliance shine through and choose the life you want to live. It´s there for the taking!

About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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