Are These 8 Negative Habits Sabotaging Your Happiness?

I know you´re not choosing to be unhappy, of course you aren´t.

Still, engaging in negative habits like these may be causing you a whole lot of misery in your life.

Much of what we get in life, as well as what we get out it, has to do with our habits.

Are These 8 Negative Habits Sabotaging Your Happiness?

Let´s take a look at some of the negative habits I´m talking about here and see if they may be what´s keep happiness at bay in your life…

Setting unreasonable timelines

Nearly any goal is reasonable. Unfortunately, it’s common to overestimate what can be accomplished in a certain amount of time. Interestingly, most individuals underestimate what’s possible over longer stretches. Be sure your timeline is reasonable. 

  • An overly optimistic estimation will leave you feeling defeated when you’re unable to attain your goal on schedule.

Holding a grudge

Focusing on negative events creates unhappy feelings. Taken to the extreme, a grudge can lead to engaging in negative actions to get back at someone. 

  • Holding a grudge has been described as drinking poison and then expecting your enemy to suffer. Let go of your negative feelings toward others!

Spending too much time in the past (or future!)

It’s challenging to be happy if you’re regretting the past or fearing the future. Learn from your past missteps and avoid dwelling on them. Avoid worrying about the future. 

  • If you foresee potential challenges ahead, calmly prepare solutions. If you live in the present moment, being happy becomes much easier.

Embracing a victim mentality

It’s common to search for excuses for our negative experiences. We often try to justify staying in our current circumstances. You may very well be the victim of some unfortunate situation, but it’s your responsibility to work your way out of it. 

  • Taking responsibility for the happenings in your life is powerful. Countless individuals have overcome incredible odds. You can certainly be among them!

Comparing yourself to others

Everyone starts with a unique set of talents, skills, and experiences. Avoid comparing yourself to others. If you want to make a comparison, compare yourself to your recent past. 

  • Are you heading in a positive direction? If so, you probably have a good reason to be excited. If not, it’s time to get busy making some changes.

Failing to learn from failure

Failure is rarely enjoyable, but it can be a useful experience. Learn from your failures and apply the knowledge to your future attempts. Failure can be a great tool for moving toward success. Repeating the same errors will provide the same results. View failure as a learning opportunity.

Suffering from a lack of gratitude

Things are rarely as bad as they seem. Regularly reminding yourself of this can demonstrate that your life might be more wonderful than you realize. Use spare moments to mentally list the things that fill you with feelings of gratitude. It will allow happiness to enter your life.

Settling for low personal standards

It’s possible to become comfortable with poor results. On one hand, you might be unhappy with where you are. On the other hand, trying for more seems scary. 

  • You’re unique and capable. You can have a wonderful life. Increase your expectations. There’s no reason to settle for less.

The habits you practice can make or break the happiness you feel. Identifying and eliminating these counterproductive, negative habits can throw the door wide open to more happiness in your life!

Enhance the quality of your habits and you’ll experience a more positive perspective on life. You deserve to be happy…we all do! 



About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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