How to Stop Stalling & Start Living In Your Personal Power

Let me ask you something… 

Are you giving away your personal power? 

Does achieving your goals seem harder than it should be? 

If you´re feeling challenged when it comes to getting what you want most in life, you may be creating walls and obstacles along your path to success.

And when you do, you wind up giving all your attention and power to those imaginary hurdles.

When it comes right down to it, this is nothing more than a delay tactic.

The question is, how do you know when you´re putting up those false obstacles and handing your power over to them? 

Let´s take a closer look…

Your Relationships

Maybe you´re looking for someone to laugh with, to love or to marry…and yet, instead of focusing on that goal, you´ve turned your attention to all the other things that seemingly need to get done first.

For example, you may feel like you want to get into shape before you meet someone new, or maybe you think you need to get rid of those extra pounds that have snuck up on you in recent months.

Perhaps you feel like you should get your finances in order and save some money before you start looking for that special someone.  You might even be thinking you need a better job before you can settle into that perfect relationship.

Let´s get clear on something, right here and now…

All of these “prerequisites” are figments of your imagination; creations of your mind. 

None of them is necessary for you to get started.

You can do about dating just fine without getting a new job first.

When you´re looking for your soulmate, you want to be with someone who will love you for who you are right now – extra pounds and all.

Your Social Life

Okay, so maybe you have the partner you want and you´re happy with how that dream has panned out. What you really long for is an exciting social life filled with fun, friends and adventure. The idea of getting out of the house on a regular basis is a great opportunity…

So, why aren´t you doing it?

It could be you struggle with letting go of the less fulfilling social relationships you already have. Or, do you feel like no one would want to be your friend because you just aren´t interesting enough?

My question for you is whether this way of thinking is helping or hurting you?

More and more people today are giving a lot of their attention to relationships formed online. If that sounds like you, it´s worthwhile asking yourself if that´s truly your vision for the perfect social life…or would you rather invest your time and energy in people and experiences you can enjoy first-hand?

Your Career

Alright, so you are happy with your partnership and your social life. For you, the top goal at the moment is having a career that´s both interesting and fulfilling; one that fills you with a real sense of accomplishment and pride. You want to make a major difference in the world. You want to feel excited, passionate and motivated.

And yet, you stay on at a job that´s making you unhappy, in order to make ends meet. The power bills have over us is truly amazing. They are actually the number one excuse many of us use for not finding a career we love.

We devote our energy to the belief that we can´t do what we want to do because we have bills to pay.

Close your eyes for a moment and imagine what your life would look like if – instead of focusing on bills – you spent your energy executing a plan to create a career that gave you everything you really want in life. 

Where would you be five years from now, if you made that move? Where will you be five years from now, if you keep doing what you´re doing now?

Tell the negative committee inside your head to sit down and shut upHow to Stop Stalling & Start Living

Let me ask you again…

Do you give away your personal power to obstacles of your own making?

If you´re nodding your head right about now, you´re probably also wondering what you can do about it.

It´s simple.

First, you need to figure out what you are afraid of.

Know that you can have everything you want in life. Get specific with your goals. Go over them detail by detail in your mind…

Then listen for the negative mental chatter in your mind to kick in.

Often it´ll take the form of “I can´t”,  ” I won´t”, “There´s not enough…”, or “I never”.

Once you know what your buts are, you can assess your fears.

Hearing: But nobody I really like would want to be friends with me is really telling yourself:  I´m not good enough. 

Do you see where I´m going with this?

Your Personal Power & The Truth About YOU

Instead of using your personal power to achieve your goals, you´ve been handing it over to a false belief that you don´t have what´s needed to get what you want.

Next time you´re thinking about how much you want to achieve your goals, listen closely for the mental chatter that says:  But…

Then, use your personal power to tell yourself the truth. 

You ARE good enough. You ARE thin enough. You ARE loveable, responsible, capable, motivated enough!

And, if you find you have a hard time standing up for yourself in the face of all the negative mental chatter, there´s no shame in getting someone to support and help you. A coach or a mentor can be a terrific ally in this process.

Ultimately, you want to use your personal power to lift you up and move you toward your goals in life, not tear yourself down inside. Even if all you do is take the steps I´ve shared with you here and never do anything else, you´ll find yourself closer to reaching your goals than ever before.

Give your power to the things that mean the most to you.

A life spent in this way brings fulfillment and success.

I want both for you.


About the Author Jan Marie Mueller

Jan Marie Mueller is founder of the inspirational blog ThinkBrilliantly and The Brilliance Community, a free Facebook group dedicated to empowering women to let their inner brilliance shine! Her mission is to help women everywhere shift the way they think about themselves, their world and those around them so they have the confidence to do, be and have what they want most in life!

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